Thursday, February 5, 2009

The "Break" Up (Thought Of The Day)

Hmmm what can I say that hasn't already been said about this particular junction in a relationship? Ah yes thats it, in a professor's accent "the proposed "break" in the middle of a relationship is merely an excuse to breakaway from the real decision that you have to make" The Question: Are you gonna work it out or are you gonna end it? You see when couples choose to have a break it's obviously for good...ish intentions but 9 times out of 10 the one who asks for the break is just afraid to make that difficult decision and answer the question.

The truth is when we're with someone and the relationship fizzles out we sometimes take a break ironically as an act of fear for what the world may offer us afterwards. We think that maybe if we were to leave our partners we wont find anything better out there and so instead of making the break permanent we make it just. But we must take a look at the wider perspective; (badoom chi) do you really want to sacrifice your fear of being alone for a bad relationship? It's a simple question with a difficult answer ( or vice-versa) and eventually you then find yourself back to the battle between our dear old friends Head and Heart.

Hmmm and lets not forget the other use of the term break. The chance to explore different, options; we cant be selfish and call it a break just so we prevent our partner from exploring there own options, it HAS to be a break-up......Im not insensitive in thinking that a break is solely for individual gain but it rarely benefits both parties because one person is usually left out in the loop. Despite it's extremeties it works out better in the long run to decide on one or the other. That's the difficult but right decision. Time to cool off....yes, a break....no! So...what you gonna do?

"In any moment of decision the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing"

2 comments so far....:

Anonymous said...

very interesting thoughts and opinions but its never as easy as that...our emotions and logic are so powerfully pitted against each other that we bail out so i guess you're right in a sense that fear comes as a result but we're human, you'd have to be heartless not to have a third alternative. Really good post

Becks:) said...

i agree with anonymous but you have a valid point; i didnt really see it that way until now

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